May. 27th, 2014

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affectingly:

I understand the desire for things to stay civil. But I want you to think about this: Why do you think it is that politeness and civility and calmness are held as the standard for any discourse? It’s because people in power set the rules.

When someone has done something to you and made you angry and you shouted at them, and then got scolded for shouting, was that just about trying to keep things “calm” and “civil”? 

Or is it a tool to take your power away from you? Is it a way to keep the conversation under the control of the person in the wrong?

When the oppressor gets to set the terms for the oppressed to react to their oppression, that is keeping the power in the hands of the oppressor. 

When something has happened to a person (a racist act, a misogynistic one, a homophobic one, an ableist one, etc.), do you think it’s fair that they get angry about that? Don’t you get angry when someone does something hurtful to you?

And it doesn’t matter if you choose to express your anger in a different way than the SJ blogger or minority you’re dealing with. What matters is that, even if you’re really not trying to dismiss their argument, even if all you want is for them to be civil with you, by asking for that, you’re telling them how they get to express their anger with a fucked up, oppressive system.

You’re doing the very thing that people in power have been doing all along: setting the terms of the discourse for YOUR comfort, instead of the oppressed’s comfort.

So yeah, it really sucks to deal with angry people who say “mean” things while getting their point across, and yeah, it hurts our feelings sometimes. But when you’re dealing with someone who has systematically had their power stripped from them within a system that you benefit from if you’re white and talking to a POC, or cisgendered and talking to someone who is trans*gendered, or a man talking to a woman, etc. etc. …is it that much of a sacrifice to accept whatever way they want to deal with their oppression? 

Because I don’t think it is, and not only that, if you don’t like the way they choose to do things, you can click away. You can google the same topics and find all the information. That’s your privilege as someone not directly affected by racism (or ableism or transphobia or homophobia, etc.). And also remember that privilege is intersectional, and just because you may not have straight privilege or male privilege or thin privilege doesn’t mean you don’t still benefit from white privilege or cis privilege or what have you.

It’s not about tit for tat when SJ bloggers get angry. Most people don’t even LIKE getting angry because expressions of anger often leave a person even more exhausted and emotionally drained. Anger and how we choose to express it can be very powerful, though, and in the face of oppression and abuse, people have a right to express it. 

I hope that helps.



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“Cecil —” Carlos’ voice trailed off. He was in no shape to go out tonight. He hated to cancel a date; what if Cecil read too much into it, what if Cecil regretted what they’d — it didn’t matter. He couldn’t possibly go out. He’d be the worst date ever. “I think I need a raincheck.”!fic, site:archiveofourown, fandom:welcometonightvale, rating:explicit, pairing:carlos/cecil.palmer, ~author:kass

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johnnysjetpack:

tchy:

dark-vowelled:

sclez:

durendals:

there is literally no difference between academic scholars discussing their interpretations of a text and a bunch of people yelling YOUR HEADCANON IS WRONG at each other

As a Masters student I can vouch for this.

The difference is citations.

#that’s literally it tho

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Kurt spent a lot of time trying not to think about it. Because it had seemed so raunchy, because magazines always made it sound like kinky stuff was what people did when they got bored, and because of Coach Sylvester’s humiliating crusade to get him in a dress for Nationals.!fic, site:archiveofourown, fandom:glee, rating:explicit, pairing:blaine.anderson/kurt.hummel, ~author:seaouryou, kink:crossdressing, genre:porn

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autisticwillgraham:

no romo - a mix for romance repulsed aromantics.

1. Booty Call - Ke$ha /// 2. Starstruckk - 3OH!3 /// 3. Pumpkin Soup - Kate Nash /// 4. Oh No! - Marina & The Diamonds /// 5. Not In Love - Natalia Kills /// 6. Heart Heavy - Mother Mother /// 7. Romance Is Boring - Los Campesinos! /// 8. Don’t Fall In Love - Danko Jones /// 9. Nail In My Coffin - The Kills /// 10. Black Sheep - Gin Wigmore

[listen]

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Not all of Claire’s memories of angels are nightmares.!fic, site:archiveofourown, fandom:supernatural, rating:generalaudiences, pairing:amelia.novak.&.claire.novak, pairing:castiel.&.claire.novak, ~author:nonisland, genre:gen

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lettersfromtitan:

theshriekingsisterhood:

isabelknight:

immunity cat also shelters you from coercive “reblog this or you aren’t a real X/you’re a terrible person” posts. It is OK to not emotionally blackmail your followers.

Relevant to my dash

IMMUNITY CAT ALSO SAYS VACCINATE YOUR KIDS AND KITTENS.

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Summary: From this prompt on the kink meme. Basically, Spock has spent his entire life being suicidally depressed, trying to find a perfectly logical reason to kill himself. Kirk finds out.fandom:star_trek, !fic, star_trek:AOS, pairing:james.t.kirk/spock, site:livejournal, .genre?, ~author:thelilytriad, rating:R-NC17, .titleLJ

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grimelords:

Making out with a girl for the first time is the coolest thing and the second coolest thing is driving home and getting aware of all the parts of your face where she was and tasting her lip balm on your lips. The third coolest thing is outer space.

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sin-sational:

LISTEN UP, FUCKERS

EVER HAD A BROWNIE CRAVING AT LIKE MIDNIGHT WHEN YOU CAN’T WAKE EVERYONE UP BY BAKING BROWNIES?

EVER HAD A BROWNIE CRAVING BUT YOU’RE TOO LAZY TO ACTUALLY MAKE BROWNIES?

YEAH, SO HAVE I. WHICH IS WHY I BESTOW UPON THEE WHAT IS PROBABLY THE BEST THING TO EVER HAPPEN TO THE HUMAN FUCKING RACE.

BROWNIE-IN-A-MUG.

LOOK AT THAT SHIT RIGHT THERE. FUCKING YUM.

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i-thought-we-were-practicing:

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Wowwww….what a lovely color job!

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may confuse words easily
echolalia/repetition of phrases
does not follow implied prompts
echolalia/repetition of phrases
reduced comprehension of figurative speech
reduced comprehension of figurative speech
echolalia/repetition of phrases
does not follow implied prompts
echolalia/repetition of phrases
may confuse words easily

autistic scott headcanons: difficulty in using language: a reduced or lack of awareness of tone in self and/or others (i.e., does not perceive sarcasm or follow implied prompts, responds to rhetorical statements and questions in earnest, speaks in an odd manner); reduced or absent comprehension of figurative language in self and/or others; may confuse words easily; echolalia (automatic repetition of vocalizations made by another person); uses scripts instead of spontaneous language (these may also be delayed echolalic in nature). (x)

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queerqueerspawn:

Unskilled labor doesn’t exist.

Labor which requires skills that are devalued does.

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obsessivelylovely:

Totally loving this @kbshimmer polish ‘you autumn know’. It’s paired with @essiepolish ‘Sunday fund at’ and a @moyou_london stamping polish. Jewelry is from @daily_charme and I used @teismom nail vinyls for the chevrons.

#amazingnaildesigns #cutenails #craftyfingers #featuremedaily #girlynailsdeluxe #glamorousnailart #hairandnailfashion #jjnailpromote #lacquerlovers #notd #nails #nailart #nailartwow #nailfeature #nailitdaily #nailpromote #nailstagram #nailstamping #nailartoohlala #nailartpromote #nailartofficial #nailpornography #ournailworld #promotemynails #perfectnails3 #rockyournails #seizethenail #sgnailartpromote #skylinebeautysupply #thenailartstory #weloveyournailart

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concernedresidentofbakerstreet:

fuckyeahvintage-retro:

Blouse Collars, 1940s-50s - By Charlotte Dymock.

there was a lot of bullshit in the forties and fifties but the style was not part of it

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p0kemina:

I’m going to make a youtube video entitled

"Shit ALL men say”

and it will consist only of the phrase “But not all men say that~!!”

And then I’ll wait for men to stare at their keyboards in utter distress as they contemplate the paradox of their intense desire and desperation to inform me that not all men say that.

I will break them.

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Summary: “It is not unheard of for an empath/telepath, when under severe mental and physical strain, to unconsciously mimic the emotions and personalities of those around them. They are generally unaware of these lapses, and unless such behavior becomes constant or self-damaging, the best treatment is rest and solitude.”fandom:star_trek, star_trek:AOS, rating:G-PG13, genre:gen, character:spock, character:james.t.kirk, !fic, site:livejournal, ~author:phoenixofborg, genre:five-times/five-things, .titleLJ

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copperbadge:

watchingthedetective:

ghdos:

magnacarterholygrail:

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phenomenarwhal:

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There are some caveats, but I’ve written a guide for how to get enrolled in the Public Service Loan Forgiveness Program here.

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chizuu:

a little comic dedicated to a friend

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kili-the-hot-dwarf:

so i’ve found that Legally Blonde/LotR crossovers are literally the best things

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