May. 11th, 2014

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I spent most of my life being silent on shit that bothers me, and learning that when I open my mouth I will lose friends, I will be cast out of social circles, I will annoy coworkers. I will be punished for believing that my humanity and the humanity of others is worthy of respect and more meaningful than jokes or snide comments.

That shit isn’t fun.

It isn’t fun to share interests and truly enjoy the company of people and later find out that they participate in dehumanizing and oppressive social structures.

It isn’t fun to want to have friends but know that they believe in really terrible stereotypes that perpetuate discrimination, violent crime, and more.

It isn’t fun to have to put up with microaggressions, and be considered “irrational” when you call them out.

It isn’t fun to tell people that something isn’t okay, only for them to feel put upon for having to think about their problematic shit.

It isn’t fun to be called “hypersensitive” when the reality is that the people around you are simply insensitive.

No fun at all.

Calling people on their shit is necessary but painful and isolating and times, so fuck anyone who thinks it’s something people derive pleasure from doing.

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“I guess it’s better than saying we’ve been together for fifteen years.” Blaine does some quick math in his head and then — “Seventeen years,” he says. Math is hard.!fic, site:archiveofourown, fandom:glee, rating:teenandupaudiences, pairing:blaine.anderson/kurt.hummel, ~author:corinna, sweet, so-real-it-hurts, post-canon

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AU fic - Arthur is in his final year of high school and finds himself entirely too interested in the new English teacher. Entirely inspired by the Police lyrics ‘Sometimes it’s not so easy to be the teacher’s Pet’.!fic, site:archiveofourown, fandom:inception, rating:explicit, pairing:arthur/eames.(inception), ~author:ladyvader, genre:au, au:highschool!au, au:teacher!au, kink:age-difference, warning:consent-issues

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how to make friend not sad

tell joke?

give thing?


say I LOVE YOU at random time repeatedly?

stare at them until the sad falls off?



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“I swear to every heaven ever imagined,
if I hear one more dead-eyed hipster
tell me that art is dead, I will personally summon Shakespeare
from the grave so he can tell them every reason
why he wishes he were born in a time where
he could have a damn Gmail account.
The day after I taught my mother
how to send pictures over Iphone she texted
me a blurry image of our cocker spaniel ten times in a row.
Don’t you dare try to tell me that that is not beautiful.
But whatever, go ahead and choose to stay in
your backwards-hoping-all-inclusive club
while the rest of us fall in love over Skype.
Send angry letters to state representatives,
as we record the years first sunrise so
we can remember what beginning feels like when
we are inches away from the trigger.
Lock yourself away in your Antoinette castle
while eat cake and tweet to the whole universe that we did.
Hashtag you’re a pretentious ass hole.
Van Gogh would have taken 20 selflies a day.
Sylvia Plath would have texted her lovers
nothing but heart eyed emojis when she ran out of words.
Andy Warhol would have had the worlds weirdest Vine account,
and we all would have checked it every morning while we
Snap Chat our coffee orders to the people
we wish were pressed against our lips instead of lattes.
This life is spilling over with 85 year olds
rewatching JFK’s assassination and
7 year olds teaching themselves guitar over Youtube videos.
Never again do I have to be afraid of forgetting
what my fathers voice sounds like.
No longer must we sneak into our families phonebook
to look up an eating disorder hotline for our best friend.
No more must I wonder what people in Australia sound like
or how grasshoppers procreate.
I will gleefully continue to take pictures of tulips
in public parks on my cellphone
and you will continue to scoff and that is okay.
But I hope, I pray, that one day you will realize how blessed
you are to be alive in a moment where you can google search
how to say I love you in 164 different languages.”
- b.e.fitzgerald (Art is a Facebook status about your winter break.)
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this is important to me i need you all to see it

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"you use too many commas in your writing" you gonna comma over here and stop me

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has anyone noticed clark kent looks a little bit like superman?

Don’t be ridiculous. Superman doesn’t wear glasses.

I keep telling you guys: he takes them off when he transforms.

That doesn’t make any sense, he wouldn’t be able to see.

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daddy!kurt/baby!blaine inspired by this art by nintendo6-9. includes not-really watersports, daddy!kink and minor comeplay.!fic, site:archiveofourown, fandom:glee, rating:explicit, pairing:blaine.anderson/kurt.hummel, ~author:cleverthanher, kink:daddy!kink, kink:come!play, kink:watersports, genre:porn

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brittany pierce + bisexuality

Brittany knows who she is, even if she doesn’t have the “right” words to say it with.

have I mentioned lately how happy I am to see an actually bisexual person on my tv? Aka, not “lesbian now!” or “just going through a phase”?


Because I am

it means so fucking much to me, I can’t even stand it

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“He Tells Her”

He tells her that the Earth is flat—
He knows the facts, and that is that.
In altercations fierce and long
She tries her best to prove him wrong.
But he has learned to argue well.
He calls her arguments unsound
And often asks her not to yell.
She cannot win. He stands his ground.

The planet goes on being round.

- Wendy Cope (via arasigyrn)
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When Kurt and Blaine run into Sebastian three months before their wedding, an interesting discussion brings to light something that might be missing from their relationship. (Baby kinkster Klaine, Sebklaine D/s threesome)!fic, site:archiveofourown, fandom:glee, rating:explicit, pairing:blaine.anderson/kurt.hummel, pairing:blaine.anderson/kurt.hummel/sebastian.smythe.(sexual), pairing:elliott.”starchild”.gilbert/sebastian.smythe, ~author:lurkdusoleil, awesome, kink:d/s, kink:other/unspecified, kink:voyeurism, kink:exhibitionism, theme:kink-themes, kink:threesomes&moresomes, kink-theme:communication&negotiation, kink:spanking

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my problem with this ~natural cure~ stuff is:

it’s bullshit like 99.99999999% of the time and I have seen people with serious illnesses get fleeced by “naturopaths” or w/e who were like “sure you can treat your serious illness with no doctors and a raw food diet” to the extreme detriment of their health, THIS SHIT HURTS PEOPLE

sure there are some naturopathic things that work for depression and anxiety (I used to treat my own anxiety with valerian, for example) but like, do you know what makes those work, it’s c h e m i c a l s, all matter in the universe is chemicals, it’s chemicals all the way down (not to mention there is still a proper use for those naturopathic remedies, things you can’t combine them with, etc)

there are a million legitimate critiques of the pharmaceutical industry but “you should be taking fruit smoothies instead of your medication” is not one of them and people need to stop pretending that it is and focus on the actual issues with the industry 

EVERY PERSON with mental and/or physical illness has heard about approximately 193,200,340,201 “natural cures” for their condition(s) and is just trying to make the best decision they can given their resources and all of these ~helpful suggestions~ bleed into each other to form one giant sentiment of “you could just get better if you tried hard enough” and I guarantee you we are all sick to death of it.

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Square Knot Cuffs

The Square Knot Cuffs are an excellent way of tying any two “columns” together. Keep in mind, these columns need not be just two wrists as shown. They could be two ankles, upper arms, thighs, wrist-to-ankle, wrist-to-thigh, wrist or ankle to a bedpost, chair leg/arm, etc. Let your imagination go wild! The reason for using a 2-column tie for this purpose(as opposed to a single-column tie) is to prevent any bone-on-bone(or bone on any hard surface) contact which can cause bruising and discomfort for your partner.

Remember to leave at least a one-finger gap between the limb and the knot!

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I put this together for a grad school assignment for, of all things, one of my library science courses (we needed to make a subject guide), so I figured this was a topic I was knowledgeable enough about to do since I have Asperger’s myself.

The resource list can also be found on my Asperger’s blog (Asperger’s Illustrated) here.

Herein are collected a number of books, blogs, articles, and websites that pertain to autism and Asperger’s in adults. As this is still a growing field of research because it is only now dawning on people that autism doesn’t magically disappear when we turn 18, I will periodically add on to this list as new resources become available.Why no Autism Speaks?
You will probably notice that Autism Speaks is notably absent from this list. There are plenty of reasons for that - namely that they do not actually support autistic people’s rights, have no autistic people on their board, and are actively trying to find a “cure,” which would mean eradication of autistic people since there is nothing to be cured here. Autism is not a disease, and Autism Speaks’s hateful, propagandist rhetoric is not advocating for us - it seeks to destroy us.Therefore, before we begin in earnest, here are a few resources on why Autism Speaks is not the best organization to support:

So What Is The Problem With Autism Speaks? | The Caffeinated Autistic

Why Autism Speaks Doesn’t Speak For Me | Emily Willingham, Forbes

Why autistic people don’t like Autism Speaks | Marc Rosen, Long Island Autism Examiner

What’s Wrong With Autism Speaks | Ariane Zurcher, Emma’s Hope Book

I resign my roles at Autism Speaks | John Elder Robinson, author of Look Me In The Eye

 Books and Print ResourcesLook Me In The Eye
John Elder Robinson
Perhaps the best-known memoir pertaining to growing up with undiagnosed Asperger’s, Look Me In The Eye is a wonderful in-depth look at life with Asperger’s.The Complete Guide to Asperger’s Syndrome
Tony Attwood
Attwood is a clinical psychologist specializing in Asperger’s syndrome, and he actually knows what he’s talking about. He is notably one of the few autism experts who has extensive knowledge of women on the spectrum, which is especially important.Pretending to Be Normal: Living With Asperger’s Syndrome
Liane Holliday Willey
Both Willey and her daughter have Asperger’s, and this memoir comes with an appendix filled with coping strategies and techniques to help those of us with Asperger’s navigate a neurotypical world.Aspergirls: Empowering Females with Asperger’s Syndrome
Rudy Simone
My personal Asperger’s bible - this was the first book I found on the subject that actually sounded like it was about me, as I am very much female (despite my fashion sense and taste in hats). Rudy Simone guides the reader through everything from making friends to going to college - and even helps us meet the partners of our dreams if we’re interested in dating! (I reread those dating chapters a lot since meeting men has always been a personal challenge for me.)Asperger’s and Girls
Tony Attwood, Temple Grandin, et al.
Nine experts in all contributed articles to this book, which is a reliable guidebook for women on the spectrum both as children and as adults. Temple Grandin is a successful autistic woman, and as mentioned above Attwood is a specialist in Asperger’s whose research and work covers females on the spectrum more thoroughly than other experts.The Snow Queen’s Daughter: my life with Asperger’s, a tale from the lost generation
Charli Devnet
Charli and I are co-workers at a historic site in the Hudson Valley (ironically, we always seem to be the two people on duty on the busiest days!) and this list would not be complete without including her new memoir on it. It’s an excellent read about growing up undiagnosed, as many of us females on the spectrum do, and I cannot recommend it enough.Coming Out Asperger: Diagnosis, Disclosure and Self-Confidence
Dinah Murray
Telling people that you’re autistic isn’t always the easiest thing to do, especially given the popular depictions of autism in the media and how they color the perceptions of the general public. This book helps you learn how to disclose to your peers that you’re on the spectrum and also helps you build your self-confidence back up after you’ve been diagnosed. I wish I had this book five years ago when I got my diagnosis, but I didn’t think to look for a book like this!WebsitesAutistic Self Advocacy Network
Exactly what it says on the tin. This is the official website for the ASAN, the largest self-advocacy organization for autistic adults (and people who aren’t quite adults yet, too). Resources include links to local chapters, media, and instructions on how to get involved.Autism Women’s Network
A phenomenal resource for women on the spectrum and those who care about them. It’s even trans-inclusive, which is also important.AUTCOM - The Autistic National Committee
An organization founded in 1990 to promote social justice for people on the spectrum. AUTCOM is a great place to go for news and events and to help promote social inclusion.Autism Network International
ANI organizes a retreat and conference for autistic people every year called Autreat. It’s by and for autistic people, so it’s especially comfortable and safe for anyone on the spectrum to go! TASH - Equity, Opportunity, and Inclusion for People with Disabilities
TASH works towards the inclusion of disabled children and adults in their communities and is a great advocate of disability rights and services. ADAPT
ADAPT is a grass-roots organization promoting social justice for people with disabilities. It has a list of actions both past and upcoming so if you’re the protesting type you can actively join in. Articles
The WorldCat subject heading ‘Asperger’s syndrome - diagnosis’ is particularly helpful for articles, but many of them are scientific, focus on children, or both. Friendship, loneliness and depression in adolescents with Asperger’s syndrome
Andrew J.O. Whitehouse, K. Durkin, Emma Jaquet, Kathryn Ziatas
Published in Journal of Adolescence, 32 (2), pp. 309-322. Accessible through WorldCat.Real-life-type problem-solving in Asperger’s syndrome
S. Channon, Tony Charman, J. Heap, S. Crawford, P. Rios
Published in Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, 31 (5), pp. 461-469. Accessible through WorldCat.The curious incident of novels about Asperger’s syndrome
Bill Greenwell
Published in Children’s Literature in Education 35 (3), pp. 271-284. Accessible through WorldCat.Evidence suggesting the existence of Asperger’s syndrome in the mid-1800s
Ashley Kern Koegel
Published in Journal of Positive Behavior Intentions 10 (4), pp. 270-272. Accessible through WorldCat.Blogs The Caffeinated Autistic Leary | Aspie. Author. Advocate Me In The Eye: John Elder Robinson’s Blog from the edge of the Spectrum
There’s also my blog itself, Asperger’s Illustrated, so never be afraid to ask me to write a post on any topic related to autism! I’ll be glad to answer your questions!



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