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“I wouldn’t necessarily mind people not knowing I’m gay, but I don’t like being thought of as straight — in the same way that I don’t mind people not knowing I’m a writer, but it would be awkward if they assumed I was an extreme skateboarder, because that’s so far removed from the reality of my life. But there is no blank slate where orientation is concerned; we are straight until proven otherwise. And if you’ve never seen how dramatically a conversation can be derailed by a casual admission of homosexuality, let me tell you, it gets awkward.”
- My Life as an Invisible Queer - Cosmopolitan (via feministlibrarian)
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wordscanbesexy:

tbh, I wish 50 shades was as far from the kink community’s reality as we all want to pretend.

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littlemissmutant:

a show like House or Sherlock except w a woman protagonist. She’d be fired in the first episode for being a jerk in her workplace. Sorry, did I say the first episode? She’d never have made it through her first unpaid internship. It would be a very short show

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bigbardafree:

the thing about being someone who’s never catcalled is that you start to wonder why like is it because im ugly???

and then you realize that youre judging your worth by whether or not you are objectifiable to a man and thats so fucked up like honestly its so fucked up 

but the worst part about the patriarchy is that it still sits at the back of your mind regardless like “nobody thinks youre pretty because they dont see you as a sex object” like somehow thats a desirable thing and it fucks me up

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fakespacegirl:

Hate doesn’t breed hate. Hate inspires anger in victims of hatred and that anger is called hatred to delegitimize it and villainize people. If you wanna help people who are victims then first you gotta stop acting like they’re just as bad their oppressors and abusers.

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lightbringing-fallen-angel:

kennedyclintonkat:

brella:

tragic backstories explain bad deeds but they do not excuse them

tragic backstories explain bad deeds but they do not excuse them

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samanticshift:

anti-sj bloggers: omg, why are sjws offended by everything?

anti-sj bloggers: i am deeply offended by your headcanons, your media criticism, your donate button, your mental illness, your lived experience, your “made-up words,” your life choices, and virtually every aspect of your identity

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bronyparctears:

A cornered mouse will bite a cat.

This does not reclassify the mouse as a predator or the cat as prey.

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mare-moment:

Some ticks carries a disease, so we’re supposed to avoid them all.

Some sharks bite people, so we’re supposed to always be cautious in the ocean.

Some snakes are venomous, so if you can’t decide whether it’s deadly or not, assume deadly.

But no, not all men.

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datakin:

labels are for soup cans and queer kids who want to know that they aren’t alone

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““Compassion hurts. When you feel connected to everything, you also feel responsible for everything. And you cannot turn away. Your destiny is bound with the destiny of others. You must either learn to carry the universe or by crushed by it. You must grow strong enough to love the world, yet empty enough to sit down at the same table with its worst horrors.” - Andrew Boyd”
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greenseer:

Sometimes I feel bad about the fact that I often need very basic concepts/tasks explained to me but it’s just like when you are visiting your friends house and you have to ask what drawer the forks are in except the earth is my friends house and I am always visiting

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caelas:

saying feminism is unnecessary because you don’t feel oppressed is like saying fire extinguishers are unnecessary because your house isn’t on fire

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kryptaria:

infinitefandoms:

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fairgroundsoldier:

i love how tumblr is like personally offended by 50 shades of grey

#we all read better fanfiction

#we all WRITE better fanfiction

We know the meaning of words like “consent” and “abuse” — not to mention the ins and outs of BDSM etiquette.

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rainbowrites:

littlehispanicspiders:

Legacies are only carried by those that are strong enough to live beyond the name

#that quote is as much about the people working on these stories as much as it is about the characters

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littlemissmutant:

seananmcguire:

Please remember that sometimes silence on an issue or situation isn’t a lack of caring or concern: it’s a form of exhausted self-care as people pull back and try to put themselves back together.  Just because I don’t say something about everything doesn’t mean I don’t think it matters.  It may mean that I am completely drained from all the things I’m already dealing with, and cannot safely take on another battle.

The same goes for absolutely everyone.  Anger is sometimes quiet and sad and silent, because anything else is just beyond you.

#if you’re not outraged you might just be tired as shit and trying to survive (andromedalogic)

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“I don’t mind them writing about the characters, but when they write about us, doing things, with each other… It’s, it’s just, it’s uncomfortable. It’s way too far. ‘Cause it’s like, I mean like, they’re co-workers, they’re like siblings, y’know, you don’t want to read things about you… doing stuff. It’s, oh, god, it’s just, no, terrifying.”
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Chris Colfer on fanfiction (x)

Are people actually surprised about this quotation?  I know I’m not.  Of course he is uncomfortable about it (and I’m pretty sure he’s more repulsed and disturbed than just uncomfortable).

RPF is a part of the fantasy life of a lot of fandoms. Lord of the Rings had a particularly active RPF sub-fandom that almost seemed to dwarf (pun intended) the textual movie fandom, but pretty much every fandom from Supernatural to Smallville to Angel has had its own RPF going on.  It’s a fantasy based on the public personae of the actors, another kind of transformative work, and of course it’s a little iffy.  You’re putting words and actions onto a real person.  But when written and shared properly, it’s no more iffy than a mystery novel about Napoleon or Lady Jane Grey.  Everybody agrees that it’s not actually really what happened, even when you get a lot of the situational facts correct.

The problem that every fandom in the social media age and particularly the Glee fandom gets into is that the rules of RPF for so many years have been to draw a very firm line between the fandom and the subjects of their RPFing.  The first rule of Fight Club and all that.  Fans who have mentioned RPF to actors at cons have been hissed and booed at by the people in the room.  It’s for us, not for them.  Of course it’s going to make them uncomfortable.  If people were writing fic about you having sex with your co-worker or friend and sharing it everywhere, you’d be uncomfortable, too.  Napoleon probably wouldn’t like being characterized as a bumbling sleuth, either.  We shouldn’t talk about it with them.  It’s not about them; it’s about our perception of who they are in public.

But where Glee fandom fails and fails spectacularly is that not only does some subset of Glee fans seem to believe their own RPF fantasies are real (although it’s the scope in our fandom that is new, not that behavior) but that they also batter the subjects of these fantasies - Chris in particular - with them online and in person.  They aren’t just asking a single inappropriate question at a con; they’re sending tweets and IG messages, they’re sending hate to real people, and even when they’re sending supportive messages within that fantasy construct they’re breaking that wall and sending them at all.

Look, I’ve been in fandom a long time.  I’m about to hit eleven years here, shockingly enough, and I’ve been part of a nice double-handful of fantastic fandoms.  I’ve read quite a bit of RPF, once I got over my initial discomfort with it, and when I started reading Glee fic I read RPF, too.  Some of it is amazing and really pulls out some interesting issues around celebrity and personality.  They’re transformative works.

I’ve backed way, way, way off from reading it, though, to the point that I pretty much only read one author’s (very clearly not meant to be real) works, because of how our fandom blurs the lines between fantasy and reality to their faces and because of how utterly disrespectful I find that kind of behavior.

I’m sure people are going to unfollow me for writing this post, but honestly if you can’t look in the face how rude it is to tell people that you spend a lot of time thinking about them fucking their friends or even their RL significant others I don’t know how to have a conversation with you, anyway.  We all have our fantasies.  We all have things we like to think and read about.  We can’t police that, even if we don’t all share the same fantasies.  Believe and enjoy what you want.

Just don’t talk about it to the actors.  And don’t expect them to like it.

(via flamingmuse)

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tardiscrash:

Let’s be real, in a time before the internet people didn’t have more adventures and make more meaningful connections. They watched TV and listened to CDs. Before that they listened to records and read magazines. Before that they listened to the radio and read bad dime novels. Before that they embroidered or some shit.

People have been staying inside and ignoring other people for as long as there have been buildings. 

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plaidandredlipstick:

the reason male comic book fans work themselves into a frenzied rage over “fake geek girls" is because they think they can’t get a girlfriend because of their love for comic books (a.k.a nerdiness). if they accept that geek girls genuinely love comic books, then they’re left with the cold harsh reality that it’s not their nerdiness that makes them unattractive to women, but the fact that they are misogynistic condescending dickbags who need to be avoided AT ALL COSTS

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