shame is for other people

andromedalogic:

mizufae:

andromedalogic:

thinking about starting to wear lipstick

#how do you do that anyway

Lipstick is simultaneously one of the more confusing of makeups and the easiest. My suggestion to you is to forgo lipstick entirely and look for products called “lip stain” which, like any other makeup, vary widely, but good ones have much more pleasant texture (no sticky slidy weirdness) and stay put even when you touch your face and lips a ton (this i know from such experience) and because they’re staining the skin instead of being a paint that rests on top of the skin usually look fine with a face otherwise totally devoid of makeup, whereas often lipsticks and glosses will look out of place on an otherwise bare face. Then, if you want the gloss or additional color or whatever you can layer a gloss on top. Lip stains come in different forms. My favorite kind is basically a marker for your mouth, it’s literally a blunt felt tip and I color in my lips and lasts all day. But they also come in that wand form and it goes on like gloss but quickly dries and smoothes, or in a little bottle with a brush, or you can find combo lipstick stains although i have no experience with them. Also, particularly relevant to you is that a pink is almost never the wrong color choice. basically you can wear a medium pink lip color at any time for any thing regardless of your skin tone or clothing or anything.

okay i’m gonna go to sleep now. sorry about the unasked for knowledgebombs

thank you! this is really helpful actually, i appreciate it.

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writtenbymadeline:

A tool to use for find Synonyms: Synonym Finder.

This is a great, unique little tool I found by browsing for writing resources. It’s name speaks for itself: it’s a synonym finder.

The site is clean cut, has soothing colors, and to-the point results for any word you look up.

For example, when I look up the word “romance,” I get this:

Synonyms: romance, romanticism Definition: an exciting and mysterious quality (as of a heroic time or adventure)

Hypernyms: quality Definition: an essential and distinguishing attribute of something or someone Usage: the quality of mercy is not strained—Shakespeare”

I had no idea what a “hypernym” is. Apparently it’s a word with a more general meaning that a more specific word fall under. Like, color is a hypernym for green.

On the right corner there’s a button to make graphs! So you can trace each synonym from it’s root word, and see how far the other synonyms connect in comparison to others.

I really like it, so I’m going to definitely bookmark it on my writing tools list.

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rubyetc:

I found these gifs I made a while back for a site that’s not running anymore, so I thought I’d post them here. It’s a description of psychiatric symptoms and states of mind using a pink box and some other stuff. 

Okay, so into-the-weeds pointed out this really could use an image description, and I’m not sure how good at that I’m going to be but I’m going to try, because this is a really useful depiction of symptoms, I think. Unfortunately, looks like you can’t use cuts on photo posts, so sorry about the length!

TEXT: If I called this my mind [referring to image 1]

IMAGE 1: 3-dimensional depiction of a box

TEXT: This would be dissociation [referring to image 2]

IMAGE 2: same box, but with an empty space where every intersection of lines should be, like it’s coming apart at the seams

TEXT: And this would be depression [referring to image 3]

IMAGE 3: 3-dimensional box, filled with blue/grey darkness

TEXT: Depersonalization [referring to image 4]

IMAGE 4: two boxes overlapping, one a pale echo/shadow of the other, like a ghost version of the first box is getting left behind

TEXT: Anxiety [referring to image 5]

IMAGE 5: Box filled with crazy blue scribbles, all contained but an angry pulsing mess

TEXT: And mania [referring to image 6]

IMAGE 6: Box with large, bold scribbles in different colors coming out of it at all angles, completely uncontained but all originating inside the box

TEXT: Apathy [referring to image 7]

IMAGE 7: 3-dimensional box unfolded into a 2-dimensional representation - four squares in a row crossing a row of three squares

TEXT: Fear [referring to image 8]

IMAGE 8: box with a person huddled inside a corner; the faces of the box are now all covered in bars, like a jail cell

TEXT: And hope [referring to image 9]

IMAGE 9: box, open on one end with the face having folded down to make an exit ramp; person standing at the end of the ramp, ready to face the world

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themidwifeisin:

WHOA KIDS.

I just found THIS AMAZING WEBSITE called Trans Birth.  It is “a directory created to connect trans* and gender non-conforming people and their families to midwives, OBGYNs, and doulas who provide welcoming care to our communities.”

WHHHAAATTTT???  I’m sending them a blurb as we speak so that I can be listed on their directory.

Providers - sign up!!  It’s quick and easy.  Let’s make this an awesome resource for trans people!!

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randumcharacter:

morgulblade:

Basically I have been blessed to be close to people who work in hiring and were very, very willing to pass along their knowledge and tips and since a lot of people I know on here seem mystified by these things, I will share my vast wealth of knowledge with you*

*Some of this knowledge might be contradicted by specifics from your own field. If you’re a chemical engineer some of these things might not apply and that’s fine. This is just ~*widely applicable*~ stuff.

Cover Letters

Cover letters are the stupidest part of a job application. The cover letter is really only there to show two things: 1) That you have a command of language that is both accurate and appropriate; 2) you read the job listing.

Your cover letter should be short. The hirer has likely read hundreds that day, and by read, I mean “skimmed over lightly.” You don’t need to fill up an entire page. 

It should only contain pertinent information. Do not try to be cutesy or “creative” unless the job listing SPECIFICALLY asks for that. Trust me, I’ve had to hire people. Those people’s letters got passed around for mocking. DO NOT BE THAT PERSON.

It should speak to the job listing, but only enough that it shows that you read it. If the job listing emphasizes that they’re looking for somebody who is willing to work odd hours, throw in a line that in your past experience you have been noted for being flexible with time. It doesn’t need a Faulkner-length explanation.

If you know the name of the person to whom the letter is addressed, address it to them. If you it is a blind application, you don’t need to put “To Whom It May Concern” or “Dear Sir/Madam;” just don’t say anything.

Stop freaking out about it. Seriously, your CL is not nearly as scary as you think it is. If you want to see a screenshot if an example cover letter that is a “catch all,” click here. I just pulled this out of my ass for a fictional job/person.

Resumes

Your resume is not an “employment record.” Unless you have no experience, it should only list the things that are the most impressive or demonstrate your abilities the clearest. 

If you have an “Objective” on your resume, take it off. All of the employers I know said, “We KNOW your objective—you want the job! It just takes up space.” 

Always make sure that your resume is formatted cleanly and with maximum readability in mind. I strongly, strongly suggest visiting this link to see how to format your resume best. Visual cleanliness matters. 

Your resume should be ONE page. Just one. Not two or more. 

You can’t lie on your resume; you can learn how to make things sound more impressive. If you worked at a hair salon cleaning up, don’t say “Swept floors.” Instead write, “Contributed to the efficiency and cleanliness of the salon by sweeping floors.” It sounds like bullshit to you, but to a prospective employer, it sounds like you’re happy being part of a team. Try to describe what you did in at least 7 words.

You can divide your resume if you want to highlight certain experiences over others. Making two sections such as “Relevant Experience” and “Other Experience” breaks it up, allows the reader to skip around, and let’s you highlight what you want to highlight.

Learn to weed things out. Unless you can make it look like it taught you something huge, don’t waste the space. At the same time, if a job sucked but you can make it appear like it really impacted you, use it. This is not the truth about how you felt about that last job. This is you advertising yourself. You’re trying to get a job, not a Nobel Prize for emotional honesty. 

Now, what about the Skills section? You should have one, but as one friend said, “Nobody gives a shit if you went to France and had a great time. What we care about is if you’re proficient in French.” That should be your metric for things:

Only list experiences that would aid you in this job or a similar one—not things that were “cool.” This is the place for things that you’ve learned but perhaps can’t tie to a job. Examples: foreign language skills, clerical training, courses/certifications, etc. 

List all of the software that you know. Even if it doesn’t seem relevant to that job, weird things happen. List any MS Office/equivalent software, if you are familiar with both Mac and PC, any graphics editing software you know… 

SOCIAL MEDIA IS A THING THAT YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY MAKE KNOWN. To people ~30 and under, social media seems like a given. But to many employers, it’s a mystical world filled with equal amounts of marketing opportunities and terror. Make it clear what social networking sites you know how to use—obviously Facebook and Twitter, but also LinkedIn, Pinterest, Tumblr, etc. 

Applying to Jobs/Interviewing

Unfortunately, I can give you less specific advice here because we are not likely working in the same field—but here are just some general things to file away:

If there’s a job listing that you feel qualified for but the listing says it wants more years of experience than you have, apply anyway. Those employers are unlikely to find that unicorn that has 4+ years of experience and is willing to work basically minimum wage. While more experience is a plus, they really just want somebody who can do the job. When it comes to applying to jobs, you really have nothing to lose by applying to anything that tickles your fancy. 

Interviewing is an entire post unto itself, but I’ll give you the tips that I’ve been given by my people: be calm, be on time, and ask good questions. Always have some questions lined up, even if you already know the answer. “What are you looking for in the right candidate?” is a good example, or “Are there opportunities for growth within the company?” etc. 

Accepting a Job

So you got a job offer; exciting! Before you immediately accept, really vet the place to make sure it’s somewhere you’d like to work. Months of unemployment make you desperate, but sometimes jumping at the first opportunity it isn’t worth it. THIS HAPPENED TO ME, LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES. 

Things you should think about:

Do I know ALL things about the job, including: what I will be paid/how often, if there are benefits and when I get them, what hours I am working, how overtime is handled, how sick time is handled, etc. These are all incredibly important to know and if your employer is legitimate they will welcome you asking them. 

Is the distance commutable, or is it too far from home? (Think about how transit/gasoline will cut into your paycheck.)

Does the job give me the time necessary to do other important things?

Does the office environment seem like one I can spend at least six months in? (Every month at a bad job feels like an eternity—if you have bad feelings, trust them.) 

Does the job offer me anything besides a paycheck? Will I be learning any skills at this job or making important connections that can help me down the road?

IMPORTANT: If an employer tries to give you a W-9 tax form upon your hiring and you are NOT a freelancer (independent contractor), RUN. This is tax fraud and is very messy and is entirely there to screw you. Become familiar with the legal definition of a freelancer so you know if you’re walking into a shady place. It happens more than you’d think, and it sucks, and is weird.

If you have any questions, feel free to send me a message or whatever, I’ll gladly answer to the best of my ability! GO GET ‘EM. 

Vital information for your everyday life. 

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dominantlife:

I had more than a year’s worth of backlog of library articles to enter in the Library For Kinksters.

My apologize for the spammed dashes.

I have one more “spam event” planned for the next few weeks that will focus on suicide and mental health.

After that, I will be caught up.

Now, back to the porn.

Welcome to the Library For Kinksters. Check back often as the library is updated frequently.

5 Languages of Love

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Truths To Live By

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

26 Baby Girl Jobs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

50 Rules for Daddies

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Age Play: A Short Guide

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Female Titles

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Ask A Million And One Questions

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

Basics of Breath Play

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

BDSM on a budget

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Consent & BDSM

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Daddy Up!

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dom Drop

Dominants Need Training Also

D/s and Domestication

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Factors That Make A Relationship

Feminist Submissive

Fetishes Explained

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

Finding Your Dominant

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Getting Started in D/s: Defining your Relationship Needs

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide to Consent

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

Help For New Doms

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Be A Good Dominant

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How to be Yourself

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Find A Dom

How to Find a Submissive

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Ignore Haters

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Importance Of Confidence In Relationships

Importance Of Trust In A Relationship

Introduction To BDSM

Is BDSM normal?

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Novice Submissives

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

On Cutting

Online Aftercare

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Slut Shaming Explained

So you want to be a Dom?

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

Some Thoughts On Rules

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Stop Arguments Before They Start

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

The Dom Commandments

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

Topping from the bottom

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What is a Little?

What Is Real Love?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

When He Doesn’t Call

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

When Someone Is After Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Why I call him Daddy

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Your Rights As A Submissive

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quietgames:

Frustrated or triggered because of that one tag/ship/fic/author that keeps showing up while you browse ao3?  Here’s step-by-step guide to blacklisting à la tumblr savior on Archive of our Own.

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transsafespace:

How to tuck safely.

So you’re looking for a Bra.

Breast inserts, panties, and lingerie.

Breast Forms.

Passing Tips.

Cheap high quality makeup.

Clothing, Breast forms, and Accessories.

Finding clothes that fit.

More passing tips.

How to be scene/emo and pass.

Pay what you can breast forms and bras.

HRT information guide.

Homemade breast forms.

Feel free to add any that you can think of. ^-^

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thecardinalmovement:

[ORIGINALLY POSTED 7/4/14; LAST UPDATED 9/17/14]

Having trouble finding the perfect idea for your fic? Want to challenge yourself? Want to just get ideas? Hopefully this masterpost will be of some help!

This is perpetually under construction—if you have anything to add, let me know!

BLOGS

Fanfiction Prompts

AU Ideas

Imagine Your OTP

Imagine Yuor OTP (for sillier ideas)

LISTS AND IDEAS FOUND ON TUMBLR

AU ideas by Tumblr user authorkurikuri

AU ideas by Tumblr user scamdal (1) (2)

AU ideas by Tumblr user crowthis

AU ideas by Tumblr user smallnico (NOTE: There seems to be more than one version of this; this is the OP, though)

Eight Unique Plot Ideas by Tumblr user chloetherph

Situation Ideas For Your Character by Tumblr user shackleboltrp

Masterlist Of Dramatic Storyline Ideas by Tumblr user rp-assistant

AU ideas by Tumblr user coffeeclint

AU ideas by me!

LISTS AND IDEAS FOUND ON DEVIANTART

70 Writing Prompts by amorine on dA

Writing prompts by Hinxight on dA (1) (2) (3)

100 Writing Prompts by tehuti on dA

Writing Prompts For You by inubasket on dA

Writing Prompts by LexicoN18 on dA

Prompts by MyMidnightLove on dA

23 Writing Prompts by RayneWolfspeaker on dA

LISTS AND IDEAS FOUND ELSEWHERE

8 Ways To Say I Love You by R. McKinley

Alternatives To Platonic Love

Prompts From A Hat

TVTropes (fair warning to those who have never been on this site: you WILL be trapped there for hours)

CHALLENGES AND BINGOS

30 Day OTP Challenge

30 Day NSFW OTP Challenge

Horror Bingo

Kink Bingo

30 Day Dark Fandom/OTP Challenge

Trope Bingo

Cliche Bingo

Happy writing!

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dare-master:

Mexican Handcuff Knot

Start by pinching the rope just a little away from the centerpoint. Remember that this can also be done with a doubled rope folded into a bight.

Pass the rope around your other hand. The direction you coil doesn’t really matter but the final knot comes out more evenly if you coil in the direction shown.

Coil a few times around your hand. More coils make the final knot more secure. Fewer coils makes the knot easier to set into place. The number of coils is up to you. Ideally you should pass the middle of the rope when you are halfway done making coils.

Pinch the working end between your index and ring fingers of the hand you wrapped around.

Let go of the working end and slip your index and ring fingers under all of the coils.

Pinch the very last coil with your index and ring fingers.

Pull your hands apart.

Your hands will exit the knot with a loop trailing pinched between each index and middle finger

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