chainedtomyconsole: So… I have something
Nov. 22nd, 2013 11:51 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
shamelessly_mkpchainedtomyconsole:
So…
I have something to complain about. And this is my personal opinion… And I don’t give a shit if people call me a prude or an angry feminist, or a “fake” sub.
I wanna talk about bdsm/kink blogs that revolve around any kind of concept of “men > women,” or an idea that women are inferior. I won’t be a name-caller, because thats simply unnecessary and everyone is free to believe, and post whatever they want.
However, I feel that we, as kinksters, breed a lot of negativity. Within ourselves and our practice. And in turn, we breed outside stigma and misconceptions because of it. And then we complain about outside stigma, including people assuming that kink is abuse.
I realize that people have their kinks. I have my own as well. I have my own that I feel might be beyond the line of safe and sane. I try my BEST to accept kinks that are not my own. I can accept someone willing to admit that their kink is something they can’t help, something that is their ultimate fantasy, and something that they’d like to do consensually. Great! :D
I CAN be tolerant of a kink or fetish that involves someone simply being turned on by the thought of woman being inferior. And I can accept consensual practice of such a kink. After all, I respect women who are not fearful of what turns them on, and if that is something that would turn someone on, by all means! Explore it!
However, I CANNOT be tolerant or accepting of the assumption or belief that that specific idea, is what all kink IS.
Because it is not. Because it spreads those misconceptions I was talking about earlier. Because not everyone shares or believes in that kink or idea. Because kink is about so much more than simple roles such as “dominant” and “submissive.” Because not every submissive is a woman, and not every dominant is a man. Because we all experience and practice our kinks differently.
You can be into degradation and respect yourself at the same time.
You can have rape fantasies and not want to be raped.
You can find strength in being overpowered.
Kink is what we make of it. And we all make it work for us. We do it because it makes us happy, we do it to satisfy our needs and desires, we do it to express ourselves. I know brutality and tears turn us on, but we don’t have to be that way in spirit or in truth :)
So, to those of you few I see, who are making kink out to be things it is not… misogynistic, shameful, or truly abusive… I gotta say..
Fuck you.
:D buhbye!
Oh.. this picture. Yea. I just thought it was hilarious because I dont know wtf is going on!
And it proves that kink can be all about joy, bondage and CAKE!!
via:Tumblr http://shamelesslymkp.tumblr.com/post/67793874370
So…
I have something to complain about. And this is my personal opinion… And I don’t give a shit if people call me a prude or an angry feminist, or a “fake” sub.
I wanna talk about bdsm/kink blogs that revolve around any kind of concept of “men > women,” or an idea that women are inferior. I won’t be a name-caller, because thats simply unnecessary and everyone is free to believe, and post whatever they want.
However, I feel that we, as kinksters, breed a lot of negativity. Within ourselves and our practice. And in turn, we breed outside stigma and misconceptions because of it. And then we complain about outside stigma, including people assuming that kink is abuse.
I realize that people have their kinks. I have my own as well. I have my own that I feel might be beyond the line of safe and sane. I try my BEST to accept kinks that are not my own. I can accept someone willing to admit that their kink is something they can’t help, something that is their ultimate fantasy, and something that they’d like to do consensually. Great! :D
I CAN be tolerant of a kink or fetish that involves someone simply being turned on by the thought of woman being inferior. And I can accept consensual practice of such a kink. After all, I respect women who are not fearful of what turns them on, and if that is something that would turn someone on, by all means! Explore it!
However, I CANNOT be tolerant or accepting of the assumption or belief that that specific idea, is what all kink IS.
Because it is not. Because it spreads those misconceptions I was talking about earlier. Because not everyone shares or believes in that kink or idea. Because kink is about so much more than simple roles such as “dominant” and “submissive.” Because not every submissive is a woman, and not every dominant is a man. Because we all experience and practice our kinks differently.
You can be into degradation and respect yourself at the same time.
You can have rape fantasies and not want to be raped.
You can find strength in being overpowered.
Kink is what we make of it. And we all make it work for us. We do it because it makes us happy, we do it to satisfy our needs and desires, we do it to express ourselves. I know brutality and tears turn us on, but we don’t have to be that way in spirit or in truth :)
So, to those of you few I see, who are making kink out to be things it is not… misogynistic, shameful, or truly abusive… I gotta say..
Fuck you.
:D buhbye!
Oh.. this picture. Yea. I just thought it was hilarious because I dont know wtf is going on!
And it proves that kink can be all about joy, bondage and CAKE!!
via:Tumblr http://shamelesslymkp.tumblr.com/post/67793874370
